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Living in Kyoto


By June 17, 20154 Comments


I arrived alone at our Kyoto apartment.  It was quiet, dark and empty.  There was no, hi honey coming from another room.  No warm welcome home after my lengthy journey across the wide Pacific. No flowers, no champagne.



That was until I passed the bathroom door.  All of a sudden, my return was acknowledged by a perky and cheerful beep beep beep.  That’s toilet language, for it’s nice to see you again.  In fact, Toilet-san was so happy to see me, it lit up and tipped its hat, well, I mean opened its lid in invitation to join it and have a seat.



When I accepted its invitation, it played one of its favorite musical recordings, much to my delight.

For the first time, I understood the importance of a responsive and cheerful appliance, always there for me, just waiting for me to return to my Kyoto home.happiness t p

Dianne Vapnek

In an attempt to slow life's quickening pace, I'm writing to share my personal perspective on the aging process, its dilemmas, the humorous self-deception, the insights and the adventure of it all. I spent the bulk of my time in beautiful Santa Barbara, CA, but manage to get to NYC a few times times a year. I've been a dancer/dance teacher and dance supporter almost all my life. For the past20years, I help create and produce a month-long creative residency in Santa Barbara for contemporary American choreographers and their dancers. It's been incredibly gratifying. This year, I decided it's time to retire! Big change. I also now spend several weeks a year in Kyoto Japan, residing for several weeks in the spring and the fall. I've been magnetically attracted to Japan for many years. Now I live out a dream to live there part-time.


  • Judith says:

    You are too funny! Where do we find that cheery toilet? Stay well and safe,please.

  • Manel Ratnayaka says:

    Dianne, that was super interesting! I like to find out the workings of that gadget and maybe we can market it here, in the USA for lonely widows like me!

  • Carol Kosteerka says:

    Thinking of you in beautiful Kyoto.

  • Susan Alexander says:

    Too cute (about the toilet)! xxx